If you think this is a joke then you’re not in college yet.
so much crying
I try not to be judgmental, but when you come to the gym and walk on the treadmill and then do like ten crunches and then sit on your phone and talking to boys… I’m probably judging you.
People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.
I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.
A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?
It is a big deal because i’m a transman.
It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.
Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.
At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.
At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.
TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.
Good job target
25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
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If I can say one thing about this past year, it’s that I learned a lot about life, myself, and other people. But I think that’s the whole purpose of college. You’re moving on to a different part of your life and growing up, but (at least in my case) you still have the padding and support that school and your parents provide for you. I’ve made A LOT of mistakes this year. Some small, some big, and some life changing. I’ve also accomplished some things and have matured in ways I never expected. I’m not entirely in the clear at the moment, but I’m in a much better place than I was even a few weeks ago. I’m entirely grateful to have had the opportunity to go away to school and I’m proud of myself for making it through two whole semesters. There were times when I thought I was going to quit and leave right then and there, and even if I did fail three of my classes, I stuck with it and it made me stronger. I learned that I can fucking do it if I really want to and I’m hoping like hell they let me come back next semester so I can prove to the university, my parents, my friends, and most importantly myself that I belong at UConn and I belong at a university and I’m good enough to graduate, even if it may not be on time. I learned the value of relationships and my family and I learned to appreciate how fucking good I have it. I met lots of people at school, from all different kinds of families and backgrounds and it was eye opening to put everything in perspective and get to know a world outside a sheltered small community where everyone knows everyone’s business. I came to terms with the fact that I have a mental illness, and that people aren’t as judge mental about it as I thought. I’m learning to open up to people and take responsibility for my own thoughts and actions and be more independent. I’m learning to live and love and who I am. I’m learning what my strengths and weaknesses are and how to use them to my advantage. I’m learning to be HAPPY again. I’m learning to love life. I may be in a bad spot as far as the fact that I’m on academic and university probation, but I know what I have to do from now on to get out of this situation and prevent myself from doing it again. I’m building confidence in myself and growing into my own skin. The amount of progress that I’ve made even in just the last semester is astounding and something to be proud of. I did literally everything that you shouldn’t do your first year of college and I should have been broken from it, but I’m doing great. I’m feeling optimistic (while being realistic) about the future, even if I have no idea what I want to do anymore. I’m looking forward to seeing where the road takes me and I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and that this fuck up of a year needed to happen for me. If I can give anyone any advice about college: it would jokingly be “don’t do what I did” but seriously, it’s a transition and it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. I’m doing okay. I’m content with where and I am. So here’s to the next three (or four depending on how Many summer classes I take) years.